Another Adventure in Dating
I never seem to learn my lesson. Or maybe I'm just too trusting. I always want to take people at face value and think they're as honest as me. Someone please smack me in the back of the head. You would think coming from a journalism background in New Jersey, I'd be a bit more hardened.
The last guy I dated, whom I saw for two months. turned out to be another cheater. Lied to my face about falling in love in with me, made plans for future events, etc., and all the while he was apparently seeing someone else.
Well, that someone else followed us on a date! Yes, that's right. Goddamn, downright stalked us. This all went down after I met the guy for dinner and started to follow him home. Well, he drove right past his driveway and kept going. I was like, what the hell is going on here? Turns out there was a car at the end of his driveway which he obviously spotted. At the time, I thought it was weird but didn't pay it much mind. We turned into an empty parking lot and that car followed. When I rolled down my window to ask him what the hell was happening right now, the guy said, "This is what's happening. I'm seeing someone besides you." Just like that. Matter of fact. A woman was in that other car. I processed this situation quickly, told him that's it and drove off.
For all I know, he was cheating on HER with ME. That lying sack of shit. Hope he rots in hell.
And this is a guy who put on his dating profile that he was "a man of his word." Yeah, right. This has left me very disillusioned about the lack of integrity in some people, and how comfortable they are with lying and playing games. I'm trying very hard not to be cynical and bitter, but it's becoming more and more difficult the further I wade into the dating world.
That was a scary situation. She could've had a gun and been a total mental case. For all she knew, I could've had a gun, or used my baseball bat on her headlights (I would've loved to have done that, and then started in on his car, but I digress).
I like to think I have fairly good intuition, but this incident gives me pause. I have to sit back and readjust my radar, reassess how and why I'm choosing the men I do. But if someone is an excellent liar and lowlife, can we always see that?
Going forward, I'm extra wary and cautious. My guard will be up even further, and it's going to take a special individual to get around that. Lesson learned.